Posts tagged photography
Triligraphy + Rope & Rose Workshop
 

There are times when you meet people who just fit in your life at just the right time. You know, when you're very pregnant, stuck in a rut creatively, need motivation, need a quick laugh, or a little boost in confidence. Enter Kay (Triligraphy) and Brittney (Rope & Rose). 

 
Britt {left) + Kay (right)

Britt {left) + Kay (right)

 

A couple of months ago I had the opportunity to document them sharing their art at their joint calligraphy and macrame workshop that took place at the beautiful Lighthouse at Glen Cove Marina.

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The space is so beautiful with lots of windows that provide for gorgeous natural light and the outdoor grounds are just as beautiful too!

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I took Kay's calligraphy class a few months ago and remember thinking at the start of class, "I'm totally gonna suck at this". An hour in, and I was getting the hang of it! I owe it to Kay, who took the time to explain each step to make sure I understood. I haven't had the chance to take one of Britt's classes yet, but from what I observed, was also thorough and took her time with each student. Watching them both connect with their workshop participants was such a joy and they provided a very relaxed, stress free, and non competitive atmosphere.

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Kay and Britt both offer their classes at various locations in the Solano County area. If you're interested in learning calligraphy or macrame, make sure to follow them on instagram (triligraphy | rope & rose) to find out when their upcoming workshops are!

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John Paul with Bersabe Films was also there taking video of the entire day and created two videos to highlight both Kay and Britt. Watch them below:

These two (you too, JP!) have been such a joy to work with (and send random text messages to, haha) and I am so lucky to have crossed paths with them both!

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Birth Story + One Month Update
 

It’s been one month since Oliver joined our family. I’m pretty much surprised that I’m writing a blog post because, well, when your sleeping pattern gets shaken up, you’re obviously tired. But it’s been a while since I launched the blog, and have not blogged anything since, so I thought today would be the perfect day to share my birth story, all the things leading up to Oliver’s arrival, and how it’s been so far being a mom of two.

Penny + Oliver <3

Penny + Oliver <3

Penny was born via c-section. They estimated her to be 10+ pounds and a possible shoulder dystocia (baby getting stuck at the shoulders after the head is born) if I tried to push her out. A high risk doc scheduled the c-section without giving me my other options. As a first time mom, I was scared and I didn’t know I was able to try to labor and birth her vaginally. October 7th 2015 rolled around and I belly birthed a beautiful 8lb, 8oz baby Penelope Ava. Um, whaaat? You guys said 10+ lbs! Lots of emotions followed her birth. I felt robbed of my ideal birthing experience and definitely mourned it.

Penny's birthday - 10/07/2015

Penny's birthday - 10/07/2015

I joined a few mom groups and learned about VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarian). I told myself when I get pregnant with baby #2, I’m pushing this baby out! June of 2017, we found out we were pregnant with Oliver. Fast forward to month 9 of pregnancy, I get a growth scan and was told by the same high risk doctor that scheduled my first c-section (my body filled with rage when I saw him walk in the room) that Ollie was currently estimated at 10+ lbs (I was 38 weeks at the time). The same rush of feelings came back; I was scared, confused, sad. I asked about the option to VBAC, and he advised against it and scheduled my c-section. I left the doctors office overwhelmed with sadness. This was going to be our last baby, and so I was never going to see what my body was made to do. I had an OB appointment scheduled the following week, so I expressed my feelings towards wanting a VBAC. The OB said I could have the option of being induced that weekend. WHAT! YES! BUT, that there could be possible shoulder dystocia which could lead to an emergency c-section and other complications including death. She told me to sleep on it and get in touch with her the next day. I went home and felt all the feels, did all this research, looking for death rates and success stories on shoulder dystocia and came to the conclusion that YES I WILL TRY FOR THIS VBAC! I was so excited! After emailing her to let her know my decision, she responded that she asked another high risk doctor for a 2nd opinion and she then advised against a VBAC. My heart was crushed. I was on a roller coaster of emotions all within a day. With pregnancy hormones raging, being SO uncomfortable at almost 39 weeks, and just over being pregnant, I agreed to the repeat c-section and asked to have my it moved up as soon as possible. I started to feel so selfish for pushing so hard for a VBAC with all those risks involved and knew and understood that I needed to do what would be safe for both Oliver and I. I asked for what is being called a “gentile c-section”, which basically means I want the curtain in front of me lowered so I see him being pulled out, I want to do skin to skin immediately, and breastfeed while being closed up. They agreed to skin to skin and breastfeeding immediately as long as everything was okay with Oliver when he came out.

Waiting to go into the OR looking up affirmations. Photo by Paul.

Waiting to go into the OR looking up affirmations. Photo by Paul.

April 10, 2018 at 10:04am he was born! Tears of joy! I get to hold my baby any second now! They pulled him out, showed him to me, took him away to make sure everything was okay and then learned this his oxygen levels were dropping. I was silently freaking out. They wrapped him up, brought him over to me so I could meet him, then they took him away to the NICU and Paul followed. I was all by myself, scared, tired, crying, starting to feel the anesthesia wear off. Someone came in and yelled out “10lbs, 1oz, 21 inches! And he’s doing well!” My first thought was, “OMG, thank God he’s okay!” Followed by, “Holy shit, he’s 10 lbs!”

Oliver's Birthday - 04/10/18

Oliver's Birthday - 04/10/18

Surgery after having Penny was such a breeze to me. I definitely felt the pain, but I felt strong and recovered quickly. Paul even said he wasn’t sure how to help me because I was just doing things for myself. Paul was off for a couple weeks after Oliver was born. Thank goodness for the short, but helpful time that he was home because recovery this time around has been harder. I’m up and doing things, going out, but I’m feeling it more. I have to remind myself to sloooow it down all the time.

Photo by  Xilophotography  from our Fresh 48 Session

Photo by Xilophotography from our Fresh 48 Session

I’d say being a mom of a toddler and a newborn has been challenging so far. Feeling all the pains from a c-section, dealing with postpartum hormones, while caring for a newborn, having to entertain a toddler, having to feed them both, and all on little sleep has me emotionally and physically drained most days. I’m pushing through though and feeling more like myself day by day. Remembering to get out when I am able or have the energy to has been amazing both Penny and I (Oliver doesn’t really care, he’s always sleeping on our walks, haha). I have family close by, so I’m super thankful I have them to fall on if I need someone to help me. The hardest part has been Penny’s regression since Oliver arrived. I mean, I expected a little jealousy from her, but I did not expect such a dramatic behavioral change. She is extremely sweet and helpful with Oliver, but is totally rebelling against Paul and I most times. We’ve been trying to keep things as normal and routine as possible for Penny and explaining to her that some things have to change/are different now. It’s been super difficult, but we are slowly learning what works to help her feel included, seen, and loved and hopefully are on the tail end of that!

Photo by  Xilophotography  from our Fresh 48 Session

Photo by Xilophotography from our Fresh 48 Session

I know it’s only been a month and some things will eventually get easier, and other things will get harder and test my patience. I’m excited for the challenge and to watch these two kiddos grow together!

Here are a few things I’ve learned since Ollie has been home:

  • Toddler regression can suck it.
  • Hot coffee turned iced coffee isn’t so bad.
  • There is no amount of shushing penny that will make her be quiet when Oliver is sleeping.
  • I had no idea my heart could love another human as much as I do Penny.
  • To do lists were important to me before, but they’re even more important to me now because mom brain is a real thing and mine just got worse.
  • Eating cold breakfasts make me appreciate the hot ones.
  • Getting ready an hour to an hour and a half earlier than I normally would helps me to leave on time. It leaves room for Penny moving slower than a turtle and for that last minute feed for Oliver.
  • I’m happy to take out the garbage if it means I get 2 minutes to myself with no baby attached to me and no toddler asking for snacks.
  • It makes me feel good and I totally wanna cry when strangers see me out with both kids and tell me I’m doing a good job.
  • Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love these two kids, but snuggling up to Paul (or even just quietly sitting near him) when both are asleep after juggling them for the entire day is one of the best parts of my day.
  • So. Much. Laundry.

Happy one month to my little family of four. I’m so lucky to do life with these people.

Photo by  Xilophotography  from our Fresh 48 Session

Photo by Xilophotography from our Fresh 48 Session

 
Hi, I'm New Here!
 

Hey hey! Let me start by saying, I’m new here. Meaning I’ve never blogged before. I’m not a blogger (yet). Well, let me take that back. I did TRY to start a baking blog a few years ago, but fell off about two posts in. I always said to myself, “who the heck is interested in what I have to share?” My nervousness to put myself out there really held me back, and still holds me back sometimes, but I’m ready to challenge myself and do this now! :) I actually meant to start my blog on the first of the year (and I had most of this written in November), but with my dad’s passing in December, being pregnant, and getting over the craziness of the holidays, my brain was in such a fog. Since I’m expecting a new little babe to join my family in early April, I’m taking a little break from photographing families until the Summer. I need something to keep me going until then, so I figured what better time to start up my blog?

[Photos taken of my little family in our neighborhood park - River Park, Vallejo CA. special thank you to my friend,  amrita ,&nbsp;for snapping these &lt;3]

[Photos taken of my little family in our neighborhood park - River Park, Vallejo CA. special thank you to my friend, amrita, for snapping these <3]

So, since this is my first post, let me introduce myself and tell you a little about me and my family. Hi, my name is Arlene. I live in the Bay Area with my husband, Paul, and our 2 year old, Penny. Paul and I were best friends for about 10 years before we finally decided to take that next step. Best. Decision. Ever. <3 Paul has his Monday through Friday 9-to-5, but also has an online shop of leather goods he hand makes himself. He’s pretty talented (shop HERE). Penny is a very fun, friendly, and hip little girl who has figured out the perfect times to use the word ‘no’ *insert eye-roll*. I’m a goofy, fun, and easy-going kinda gal, but I’m also passionate and stand up for myself. I try to demonstrate positivity, optimism, and resilience always, and especially in front of my daughter. On the weekends you’ll find us either day tripping to cities we’ve never been (or have been to 100 times) to explore, shopping, or hanging out at home binge watching a show on Netflix with a bag of kettle chips.

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Before photography…well lets rewind even further back. After high school, my goal was to become a nurse - typical Filipino parent’s dream for their kid. I started pre-reqs for it, then decided, nah, I want to go to school for pharmacology. Well, the desire to become a pharmacist died, and I went back to school to become a nurse. I must’ve really NOT wanted to work in the healthcare field because I dropped that again. I ended up working as a Program Specialist for a mental health and substance abuse agency for about 8 years. I married Paul in 2014, got pregnant with Penny in 2015 and made the tough decision to become a stay at home mom. Shortly after having Penny, I had a small online shop selling handmade kids hair bows. I loved it! I shut down my business (so bittersweet!) as my love for photography and eagerness to learn more about it grew. I worked for another photographer for a few months, which was definitely a learning experience for me with lots of lessons learned. I realized that working for someone else is not what I want to do. I finally put my big-girl panties on and decided to work on starting my own photography business. There were many tears, frustrations, lots of questioning myself if I’m making the right decision, lots of “Am I good enough? Can I really do this? I’m not good enough.” It was mentally draining, but exciting at the same time and I’m thrilled to have made the decision to do this!

[If you haven’t been to my  hello page , head over there to read more fun-facts about me!]

[If you haven’t been to my hello page, head over there to read more fun-facts about me!]

Originally, I wanted to start a blog to only share sessions that I’ve photographed, but I want to share more! I don’t feel the need to separate the two because I want you guys to get to know me, know my life *and new journey with two littles*, see the things I’m interested in, the places I’m going, and the things i’m feeling. I want you to read about the good, the bad, the sad, the exciting going on in my life, along side my professional work - the work I love to do; capturing beautiful souls and faces.

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So here it is, my first post. Go easy :) And if you want to follow along my journey, see some sessions, find out about events coming up, promos, etc., subscribe at the bottom of the page!